Reflecting on a dysfunctional behaviour

We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.

~ Melody Beattie 

I write my own story. 

I shape my reality. 

I feel powerful most of the time.

I believe we are here to provide service for the greater good. 

But I have a problem. At times, I assume a disproportionate amount of responsibility for the afflictions of others. 

When a loved one presents with a health or wellness challenge, it mobilizes me into action. I blame myself and ponder what I could have done better to prevent the suffering. Feeling responsible, I do everything in my power to reduce the burden. 

Sometimes, I overdo it.

As I reflect, I realize that not only is my disproportionate sense of responsibility taxing, but it also creates dependence. Am I interfering with the gift of a challenge to facilitate growth and transformation in others?

I wonder how this tendency is serving me. What do I gain from this arrangement? What do I lose? Is this about feeling a disproportionate need to earn my keep?

I do not have all the answers, but today, I let go of this dysfunctional behaviour that limits my ability to contribute more widely. 

Embracing interdependence

Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Interdependence is human nature. Our survival and success depend on cooperation and reciprocity with others. It's give and take.

I am willing to receive. 

I am worthy. 

I am enough.